Like most people who live in large cities, I have a fairly long commute each day to and from work. The round-trip hour and a half of subway time is devoted to higher learning via spiritually themed podcasts. My commute is sacred. It’s my God time. I listen to my teachers and absorb what spirit has for me to learn.
This morning, as I listened to an archived version of one of my favorite internet radio shows, I energetically tuned into the first woman to call the program for a reading. She was intimately familiar with her own natal chart, so much so that as the guest astrologer tried to give a reading, the caller threw up blocks to every piece information. More specifically, the information was not connecting with the caller because it didn’t fit into her narrow view of her natal chart and its potential.
These podcasts cause my psychic abilities to kick in, enabling me to play along at home. I could see this woman’s energy in my mind’s eye and the chains, knots, and walls she had constructed. Every time astrologer and host tried to empower her or lovingly correct her, she would reject it because it didn’t support her victim consciousness. I felt the doors slamming in her energy; I felt her anger; I felt her years of resentment, loneliness, and pain. But I also felt a good lesson to be shared.
I’m not picking on this lady; I actually want to thank her for being a teacher of what happens when we limit our energetic potential with rigid thinking. To her, her natal chart was a prison of intersecting aspect lines and planets forming the bars of what was possible and what was not. The only reading she wanted was one that affirmed her prison, not one that gave her the key. And this is the heart of Empowering Astrology — using the natal aspects as a key to learning, evolution, and empowerment.
Let’s say a woman, for example, has a Venus/Pluto square in her chart. If I say to her, “Wow, this Venus/Pluto square is pretty intense. You’re learning soul lessons about power, attraction, and what it means to feel safe with what you attract into your life, especially in regards to relationships. You have the potential to be a powerful master of attraction, intimacy, and sharing. But you gotta work at it.”
To which she says, “No, my Venus/Pluto square means that I always have abusive relationships.”
Do you see what happened there? She just threw up an energetic wall that affirms a negative pattern. By doing so, she doesn’t allow any growth or new energy to come in that supports a higher expression of the Venus/Pluto lesson. Worse, she keeps feeding her victim consciousness that says, people always hurt me, I’m never loved, there’s never enough, etc.
But there’s no judgement in spirit. It waits patiently and lovingly for us to learn and integrate our lessons, which can take a year, a lifetime, or even multiple lifetimes. It’s our choice. When we empower ourselves, we step out of the dense cycle of our lessons and gain an altitude of consciousness that allows spirit to show us another path. Our energy then shifts, creating new energetic receptivity to higher expressions of our lessons.
A better response to my Venus/Pluto example would for this woman to say, “Well, I’ve had a bad past with relationships and abuse, but I am willing and ready to experience something different.” All she has to do is open the door to a different experience. That’s all it takes; the willingness deep down for something better.
Whether we have Venus square Pluto, Mercury opposite Neptune, or fifty-thousand Saturn squares all making us question getting out of bed each day, we have to realize that there is more. We have to work with the lower form of the energy and transmute it into something higher. We create our own reality. Our natal chart is not a prison.
So God bless you, unhappy lady, wherever you are. Thank you for being a teacher.
thank you for listing to the podcast and sharing your thoughts. I too had recently found myself feeling the same way about myown natal charts. I wrote down the positive affiration on accepting and learning from a grey sitation.
You’re very welcome! It’s all about perspective.
Great! To me, we have to be willing to get to a certain (open) mental space to receive the most from a reading. I don’t read for people who are radiating negative (cynical, skeptical, “know-it-all-itis”, blocking, etc.) energy.
I often experiment on Twitter with offering an article or whatever that addresses readers’ blocks. Blocked people rarely see that they need whatever I linked to, whereas open people often find the “hidden” gems in the links.
Thanks for quickly illustrating the differences in energy. I linked some people here. 🙂
Hi there, I only recently found your site and am working to learn through astrology…
That being said I actually have Venus square Pluto but I don’t harp about bad relationships…anymore. Had what felt was a very damaging one about 8years ago and I really think it took me about 5 or 6 years to get over the perceived damage I held onto from it. I never thought of that placement as potential towards being powerful in my ability to attract, sounds cool! Thanks for the insight. 🙂
sadly, this is what happens when someone with no specific training oversteps into counselling. every 1st year student knows that the first thing a client needs from the one helping is acknowledgement – validation of their suffering.
a simple “yes, what you say is true for you”, “I believe you”, “your view on things is valid, and just, and correct”.
but when your own issues get in the way, what you need to do – what YOU need to do – is jump her! become one of the people who abuse her, become the pluto in her life. make her feel stupid, and unheard, her view isn’t right, her pain isn’t real, her despair isn’t justified. it’s all “in her head”. “if she wanted to”, she could see it all differently. just like YOU see it, from your comfortable, cushioned life.
this is why people train for years, even decades, to help other people. so they know never to say crap like that!
PS she’s not ‘closed”. she’s suffering. you’re the one who’s ‘closed’, and untrained to do this stuff!
She’s not my client and you assume incorrectly that I would jump all over her without compassion or validation if she were. She is merely an example of a bigger lesson that begins with ourselves and how our journey in healing is markedly helped when we step outside of our victim consciousness. Further, if we only believe that our natal aspects will operate in the lower expression, we miss out on opportunity to express the fullness of the aspect. I don’t need to do anything nor does she. In the end she is in her free will to choose what is right for her even if it means continued suffering. If your complaint is that I’m untrained to work with people, then your complaint is with all astrologers who work with clients.
I have no idea what a natal chart is but I’m open to new ideas. I have been someone who occasionally reads my horoscope wherever I may see it. Usually curios to see if it sounds like ” me ” at all. I do realize that astrology is so very much more than that. And, I’m interested to learn Actually a thirst to understand everything seems inborn in me. I have always been the one to ask , how and why! So, I begin a journey! Thank you, Linda.